MueLu: Kokkos_Refactor option should check for upstream dependencies

Created by: jhux2

@trilinos/muelu

The MueLu cmake option MueLu_ENABLE_Kokkos_Refactor should include logic that checks that certain upstream dependencies and other cmake options are enabled.

• -D MueLu_ENABLE_Experimental:BOOL=ON
• -D MueLu_ENABLE_Kokkos_Refactor:BOOL=ON
• -D Xpetra_ENABLE_Experimental:BOOL=ON
• -D Xpetra_ENABLE_Kokkos_Refactor:BOOL=ON